Say one true thing about her and one promise she can hold you to, and your vow is already better than most. Each of these 30 wedding vows for her is timed to say aloud, from 15 seconds to just over half a minute.
Wedded Wonderland's guide on how to write your own wedding vows covers the full method, and poems and quotes to inspire your vows gives you borrowed lines to read alongside them.
Short vows suit ceremonies with little room for speeches, such as an unplugged service, a long guest list or a rainy afternoon. Each runs about 20 seconds, so you can say it from the card without losing the room.
Short, 43 words, about 20 seconds. Best for an unplugged ceremony.
[Name], nobody here is holding a phone, so you have all of my attention. I promise to keep it that way over breakfast and whenever you're telling me something that matters.
I love you, and I'm glad I get to say it here.
*Name where she most wants your attention.*
Short, 41 words, about 20 seconds. Best for someone who dislikes speeches.
[Name], I'm not one for speeches, and you know that better than anyone. So here is the short version.
I love you. I'll be kind on the hard days and honest on all of them. You can hold me to both.
*Swap in the two promises she most wants to hear.*
Short, 42 words, about 20 seconds. Best after friends have read the poetry.
[Name], other people have said the beautiful things today, so I'll say the true one. You're the first person I want to call with good news, and the first I want to see after bad.
I promise to keep calling you first.
*Change "call" to however you two share news.*
Short, 38 words, about 20 seconds. Best when the weather has changed the plan.
[Name], the forecast was wrong, and you are still smiling. I knew then that I had chosen well.
I promise to stand in the weather with you, and to hold the umbrella over your side. I love you.
*Swap the forecast for whatever has gone off-script today.*
Short, 40 words, about 20 seconds. Best for a light, warm ceremony.
[Name], I can pick out your laugh from three rooms away, and I have never once wanted it to stop.
I promise to keep earning it, and to be funnier, or at least easier to laugh at. I love you.
*Name the room where you first heard it.*
Short, 46 words, about 20 seconds. Best when the room holds a great many people.
[Name], there are [two hundred] people here, and I am speaking only to you.
I promise to keep that true long after they have gone home. At the end of every day, when it is just us, you will have all of me. I love you.
*Use your real guest number, because the contrast does the work.*
Romantic vows work best in a formal room, or when you want her to hear what you have noticed over the years. Each rests on one specific habit, because a detail she recognises lands harder than a grand phrase.
Romantic, 72 words, about 35 seconds. Best for a formal room.
[Name], I love your hands most when you're tired. At the end of a long week you rest them flat on the table, as if you're holding the house still. I've watched you do it for [four] years and never told you.
I promise to take the week off your shoulders when I can, and to sit with you when I can't.
I'm yours, [Name], and I have been for a while.
*Describe her tired gesture exactly, without adjectives.*
Romantic, 59 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a partner others confide in.
[Name], you listen with your whole face. I have watched people tell you their troubles and leave lighter, and I have been one of them more times than I can count.
I promise to listen to you the same way, without fixing, until you have said all of it. I love you, and I am better for the listening.
*Swap the listening for what people say about her afterwards.*
Romantic, 65 words, about 30 seconds. Best for honouring how she cares for family.
[Name], when your [grandmother] was ill, you drove [three hours] every Sunday, then came home and made dinner as if nothing had happened. I saw what it cost you, and I never said so.
You give to the people you love quietly, in person and without keeping score. I promise to do the driving with you, and to have dinner ready when you come home.
*Swap the Sunday drives for the moment you saw her give.*
Romantic, 54 words, about 25 seconds. Best for someone who keeps small things.
[Name], I keep your notes, even the shopping lists and the reminders on the fridge. One, on the back of a receipt, said only "proud of you". Your handwriting leans to the right, as if it is hurrying towards whoever it is written for.
I promise to be worth the hurry. I love you.
*Swap in the small written thing you actually kept.*
Romantic, 54 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a couple who have been together some years.
[Name], I thought I knew you in the first year. Then you showed me the part you keep for slow afternoons, and the part you keep for your sister, and I understood I had only just begun.
I promise to stay curious about you for as long as you let me. I love you.
*Swap the sister and afternoons for the sides you met last.*
Romantic, 64 words, about 30 seconds. Best for a couple who lived apart.
[Name], for [two] years I loved you through a screen, in voice notes you recorded on your walk home. Distance taught me that you keep your word to the minute, and that you stayed when leaving would have been simpler.
I promise to arrive the way you did, even when arriving meant a long-haul flight. Any flight we take from today, we take together.
*Swap the voice notes for her own way of closing the gap.*
Dry vows suit couples who tease each other at home and want the room to hear that side. Keep the joke on yourself or a harmless habit, and let the promise at the close carry the weight.
Dry and funny, 72 words, about 35 seconds. Best when friends know the running joke.
[Name], I've agreed to a lot in our relationship. The cushions. The second set of cushions. A thermostat we have never once agreed on.
Today I'm agreeing to the big one. I love how fiercely you stand up for your people, and how gently you treat me when I pretend I haven't had a bad day.
I promise to negotiate the thermostat in good faith, and to keep saying yes to you.
*Use a harmless debate the whole room has heard.*
Lightly funny, 60 words, about 30 seconds. Best when the dog is at the ceremony, or should be.
[Name], in the interest of honesty, the dog liked you first. He walked straight past me and sat on your feet, and he's been sitting there ever since. I understand him completely.
I promise to share the sofa, the dog and the last of the coffee. I'll back you in public and argue with you later, kindly and in private.
*Use your own animal and its first move towards her.*
Dry and funny, 49 words, about 20 seconds. Best for a couple who travel well.
[Name], you read maps the way other people read novels, and I still manage to get us lost.
I promise to follow your directions, to stop announcing a shortcut, and to be good company when we arrive somewhere unplanned. Wherever you are going, I am coming. I love you.
*Use the real wrong turn the family still mentions.*
Dry and funny, 53 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a couple who laugh about their habits at home.
[Name], you have never been late in your life, and I have never been early. We have settled on a compromise, which is that I arrive ten minutes after you.
I love that you wait for me anyway. I promise to be on time for the things that matter, beginning with this one.
*Use her punctuality, or any habit you laugh about.*
Dry, 74 words, about 35 seconds. Best for grandparents, faith leaders or colleagues.
[Name], in front of the people who taught us both what a promise means, here is mine.
You're the most sensible person I know, and you said yes to me, which I've decided not to examine too closely. I love the way you think a problem through, then say it plainly.
I promise to be worth the risk you've taken. I will be truthful, and home for dinner when I said I would be.
*Keep the joke on yourself, and leave scripture to the readings.*
Lyrical vows lean on an image, a landscape or a line of verse, and suit a partner who loves language. Keep any quotation shorter than your own words, and read each aloud first, because rhythm matters more than ornament.
Lyrical, 55 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a reader who loves the classics.
Shakespeare began, "Let me not to the marriage of true minds / Admit impediments."
[Name], I take that as a promise. When a doubt comes, I will bring it to you and not around you. When you are afraid, I will stay in the room. I admit no impediment between us, and I love you.
*Read Sonnet 116 first, and quote it briefly.*
Lyrical, 44 words, about 20 seconds. Best for a coastal or waterside ceremony.
[Name], you are the sea I learned to trust. Never the same twice, but honest about what it is.
I promise to swim out with you and to come back with you, to read your tides and to tell you mine. I love you.
*Swap the sea for her favourite landscape.*
Lyrical, 52 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a garden or vineyard ceremony.
[Name], you are the only person I know who plants trees for shade you may never sit in. I have watched you tend a friendship, a family and a garden with the same unhurried care.
I promise to tend what we have the same way, slowly and without applause. I love you.
*Swap the trees for the slow thing she tends.*
Lyrical, 50 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a quiet, confident speaker.
[Name], I have said your name in a hundred rooms, and it has never once sounded ordinary. It sounds like arriving.
I promise to say it for the rest of my life the way I say it now, as if I had only just been let in. I love you.
*Replace "a hundred rooms" with where you say her name most.*
Quiet vows are for the person who dreads the microphone, or who would rather say less and mean all of it. They are the plainest of the thirty, so choose one when every word must hold up.
Quiet, 56 words, about 25 seconds. Best when every word must count.
[Name], I've kept this simple, because I want you to hear every word.
I promise to be truthful. I promise to be patient, even when I'm tired. I promise to make room for your work, your friends and your quiet. I promise to stay.
I love you more than I know how to say up here.
*Make each promise one she could check in a year.*
Quiet, 67 words, about 30 seconds. Best for thanking her for something small.
[Name], whenever I come home late, there's one light on in the hallway. You leave it for me. You've never mentioned it, and I've never thanked you.
Thank you. It's a small thing, and it's you all over. You make space for people before they arrive. I promise to be someone you can come home to, late or early, in a good mood or a terrible one.
*Swap in the small thing she does unmentioned.*
Quiet, 35 words, about 15 seconds. Best when you dread the microphone.
[Name], I have rehearsed this a great many times, and it still comes down to one sentence.
I am happier with you than I knew I was allowed to be. I promise to deserve it.
*Keep the sentence plain, and cut anything that explains it.*
If either of you brings children or a full earlier life to the day, your vow can say so without apology. Keep every line pointed forward, and give the family one plain promise rather than a speech.
Second marriage, 72 words, about 35 seconds. Best for someone bringing a full life to it.
[Name], I come to this with more life behind me than I once had, and I bring all of it to you. You've made room for every part of it without once asking me to be smaller.
You plan the week on Sunday night, in pencil, and always leave Saturday blank. I promise to keep Saturday blank with you. I know what a promise weighs now, and I'm making this one gladly.
*Keep every line pointed forward, and use one of her habits.*
Family, 55 words, about 25 seconds. Best when her grown children sit in the front row.
[Name], your grown children have welcomed me more generously than I had any right to expect.
I promise to be an addition and never a replacement. I will ask before I assume, and turn up for the ordinary Tuesdays as well as the grand occasions. I love you, and I love what you have built.
*Swap the Tuesdays for the ordinary day her family counts on.*
Family, 66 words, about 30 seconds. Best when her children stand close by.
[Name], I love the way you sing in the car when you think nobody's listening, and how [child's name] and [child's name] join in when they know you are.
I promise to be your partner in all of it, the school mornings and the decisions at the kitchen table.
And to [child's name] and [child's name], I'll be here for you, at whatever pace suits you.
*Keep the children's line to one promise that asks nothing.*
A blessing after a legal signing, a ceremony before elders or a vow that closes in her family's language each needs a slightly different tone. Tell whoever leads what you plan to say, so the welcome and the order of service match.
Symbolic ceremony, 59 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a blessing or destination ceremony after the legal marriage.
[Name], there's nothing left to sign today, so I can just say it. I love you.
I love that you thank people by name, the driver, the barista, the man who fixed the gate. I love that you went quiet when we signed, then squeezed my hand twice.
I promise to show up for the moments nobody writes down.
*Have whoever leads say in the welcome you are already married.*
Symbolic ceremony, 49 words, about 25 seconds. Best for a blessing with parents or elders watching.
[Name], the people who raised us are listening, so I will choose my words with care.
I promise to honour what they gave you. It shows in how you keep your word and keep people close. I promise to carry both into the family we make. I love you.
*Name what her family gave her that you have seen.*
Two languages, 62 words, about 30 seconds. Best when her family speaks another language at home.
[Name], your family has been so generous with me, with their food, their stories and their patience with my pronunciation. I'm going to test that patience once more.
I love the way you switch languages mid-sentence when you're excited. I promise to keep learning yours, slowly and badly, and to honour your family as my own.
["My love" in their language], [Name].
*Ask her family for the line, then have a native speaker check.*
Every vow above follows one five-part shape:
Then run the stranger test. If a stranger could say a line about their own partner, cut it. "You make me happy" fails, and "you leave one light on in the hallway" passes. If whoever leads writes the ceremony, hand them this shape and your true details.
Keep it under 150 words and close to hers. The times above assume an unhurried 130 words a minute. Your celebrant, registrar or officiant decides where your vow sits among the legal words, so send them the text early. Wedded Wonderland's guide to traditional wedding vows gives the legal wording, and the order of a wedding ceremony shows where your vow falls.
Work back from the date:
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