Engagement Party Outfit Ideas for Hosts and Guests

Work out the dress code and the venue first, then go one step dressier if you're not sure. Whatever the party, skip white and anything showy as a guest, so the couple stays the centre of attention.

Key takeaways

Start with the dress code on the invitation, then think about the venue and the time of day.
As a guest, skip white, or any pale shade that could pass for it, unless the couple asks for it.
A sundress or a shirt with chinos suits a backyard party, while an evening party calls for a cocktail dress or a suit.
At black tie, men wear a dinner jacket and bow tie, and women an evening dress, anywhere from knee-length to floor-length.
If you're unsure, slightly overdressed beats underdressed.

Two Rules Every Guest Should Follow

Before you open the wardrobe, there are two rules from Glamour. First, no white, and no pastel that could be mistaken for white, unless the couple has asked for it. Second, nothing too revealing, dramatic or attention-grabbing. That keeps white free for the couple, and the same courtesy applies at the wedding, as our rules for wearing white as a guest explain.

Engagement Party Outfit Ideas by Dress Code

Backyard or Casual Party

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A backyard barbecue or a relaxed party at home is dressy casual territory. Think an easy sundress or a blouse with trousers, lifted with ballet flats, pearl earrings or a small bag, as Glamour suggests. For a smart casual invitation, Debrett's says even designer denim is probably too casual for women's outfits.

Brunch or Lunch

Sleeves and pastels are standard at a brunch or luncheon, according to Glamour, which also suggests an all-pink outfit for a look that's dressy without feeling like evening wear. Go for pastels with real colour, like pink, lilac or sage, rather than the palest shades that can look white in photos. At Mandy Moore's engagement party, an afternoon lunch at Hotel Bel-Air in Los Angeles, every guest even wore a pastel tiara.

Dinner at a Restaurant

A dinner party gives you a bit more freedom. A mini dress or a matching skirt and top both work, Glamour says, as long as the fabric looks polished, such as satin or crisp cotton poplin. Slingback heels and statement earrings finish it off.

Cocktail or Evening Party

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A little black dress is a reliable choice for an evening party, and a cocktail dress code allows almost any length, with midis the easy pick. Add strappy heels, a matching bag and an updo. For men, Debrett's describes cocktail and "party dress" codes as looser, so you can swap a dinner jacket for a smart suit or a velvet jacket.

Black Tie

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Black tie is the most formal dress code most people will ever come across. Glamour points guests towards floor-length gowns, and since plenty of people will wear black, a print helps you stand out. Debrett's adds that knee-length cocktail dresses are the most popular choice at black tie, though floor-length evening dresses can also be worn. For men, it's a black dinner jacket with a bow tie, ideally one you tie yourself.

Engagement Party Outfits for Men

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Smart casual is the most common dress code of all, according to Debrett's. For men, that's a jacket and maybe a tie, or an open-necked shirt, with chinos or tailored trousers. If the invitation says lounge suit, it means business attire: a dark or grey suit, collar and tie, and polished black shoes, the sort of thing Debrett's suggests for drinks after work or dinner in a restaurant. If you can't decide, bring the jacket, since you can always take it off.

What the Couple Wears

Because guests are asked to skip white, the bride-to-be can wear it if she likes, but she doesn't have to. Two engagement parties we've featured show both routes.

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At Claudia and Joshua's engagement party, styled with Sicilian elegance by Simon Tayoun, Claudia wore a white off-the-shoulder mini dress with ruffles, and Joshua a cream suit with an open-necked white shirt.

Engaged couple at a restaurant party, the woman in a green off-the-shoulder dress and the man in a white shirt with a green tie | Wedded Wonderland

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Sarah went with colour at her engagement party with Stefan at Pietro's Pizzeria, in a green Shona Joy dress, and Stefan matched her with a green tie and a white shirt.

The celebrity engagement parties we've covered lean white: Millie Bobby Brown in a white lace two-piece by Giambattista Valli, next to Jake Bongiovi in a green suit and white shirt, and Gabriela Versiani in a white Rachel Gilbert gown with a netted veil. Whatever you pick, match the formality you've asked of your guests, so they can follow your lead.

What Hosts Should Wear

You set the dress code, so put it on the invitation and stick to it yourself. Parents who host can follow the same rules as guests, including the one about white.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Can you wear white to an engagement party?

Not as a guest, unless the couple asks everyone to. Skipping white is Glamour's first rule for guests, and it leaves white for the bride-to-be. Go for a colour or a bright print instead, so there's no chance of upstaging the couple on their day.

What should a man wear to an engagement party?

For most parties, a jacket with chinos or tailored trousers, with or without a tie. At a backyard gathering you can drop the jacket and wear a smart shirt with chinos. A formal dinner means a dark suit and tie, and a black tie invitation means a dinner jacket and bow tie.

Do I have to wear white to my own engagement party?

No. Guests keep white off-limits so you have the option, but nothing says you have to take it. A colour, a print or a suit all work. Wear something you feel good in, at the same level of dressiness you've asked of your guests, since they'll take their cue from you.

What should the mother of the groom wear to the engagement party?

The same as any guest: follow the dress code and avoid white. If she's co-hosting, it helps to agree with the other hosts beforehand on how dressy the party will be. A dress, a skirt or trouser suit, or smart separates all work, depending on the venue and the time of day.