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My fiancé doesn’t want my bestie to be my bridesmaid because she isn’t hot enough


Wow. It’s not often we get surprised by wedding horror stories (because, I mean, we’ve heard them all), but this one blew us away.

A 32-year old bride to be has reached out to the internet for advice after her fiancé told her that he doesn’t want her best friend to be in the bridal party because she isn’t hot enough and will ruin the wedding photos. So the bride-to-be ask her other best friend for advice and the best friend AGREED with the fiancé!

“Me and My fiancé are starting to plan our wedding. It has been brought to my attention from my fiancé that he does not want my BFF to be in our wedding because she is not attractive. He says he doesn’t want her ruining our wedding photos and only wants attractive people in our wedding party. I think that this is absurd. I did ask you of my other BFF what he thought of my possible maid of honor. He agreed with my fiancé. I don’t care whether or not people in our wedding are attractive.

I feel like my BFF will be assuming she is in the wedding party, but when I don’t ask her she will question it. I would feel horrible knowing I didn’t ask her because my fiancé wants good looking people in our party.

I don’t know how to handle this. I’ve asked my fiancé to remove someone in his groom party but he doesn’t want to. Sadly I don’t have many girlfriends to pick from so I’m at a loss. Please I’m looking for advice if any.”

One reddit user, replied

“I really don’t understand why people think that weddings are some sort of beauty pageant.

The members in your wedding party should be close friends and people who’ve supported you through life, not a walk on collection of models from GQ or Cosmo”

Spectrum2081 agreed, saying

“If your BFF isn’t too ugly to be your best friend, to be with you in public, to be in all of your other photos, she is not too ugly to be in the wedding party. When you look back at those photos, her absence will ruin them for you. And excluding her based on her looks alone would be ugly indeed.”

Others went so far to suggest she break-up with her future groom!

Mrsj74 said

“Do yourself a favor and don’t marry this douche canoe. What happens when you have kids that might not be pretty enough? What happens when your looks fade? Not to mention that your request that he remove someone from the groom party was denied, yet he can dictate who’s in your party. Red flags everywhere.”

And Soulessgingerlol added

“You want to be with someone this shallow? Holy shit. What happens when you have kids and get a little pooch..or like when you get older? Will you need plastic surgery to stay perfect? Or will he trade you in for a new model? Have you seen behavior like this before? Yikes, that would be a huuggee red flag to me.”

What do you think, Fairies?

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