When a celebrity breakup occurs, we all say the words “Love is dead,” but while we would prefer to sit down and eat a tub of ice cream and cry over the demise of our favourite celeb couple, know that it’s not the end of it all. In fact, there are some celebrity couples who have stayed friends after breaking up, proving to us all that you can be friends with an ex after a breakup.

Here are  the lessons we learned from celebrity breakups.

You can have a classy breakup

Thanks to Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin the term “conscious uncoupling” became a thing. This means no messy breakups, no fights and no bad mouthing your ex. When news broke that one of Hollywood’s favorite couple Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split, they shared the news in a very positive manner.

The couple released the statement through their respective Instagram that states:

“We have lovingly chosen to separate as a couple. We fell deeply in love so many years ago and have had a magical journey together. Absolutely nothing has changed about how much we love one another, but love is a beautiful adventure that is taking us on different paths for now.”

“There are no secrets nor salacious events at the root of our decision – just two best friends realizing it’s time to take some space and help each other live the most joyous, fulfilled lives as possible. We are still a family and will always be loving and dedicated parents to Everly.”

It’s ok to be sad

Cry, eat a full tub of ice cream, stay in your pajamas all day and just be sad. It’s ok and no one is judging you. Breakup’s are hard so if you need to go and cry your heart out, just do it. Jennifer Aniston spoke to Vanity Fair about the levels of pain and sadness she experienced after her divorce with Brad Pitt.

“There are many stages of grief. It’s sad, something coming to an end. It cracks you open, in a way—cracks you open to feeling. When you try to avoid the pain, it creates greater pain. I’m a human being, having a human experience in front of the world. I wish it weren’t in front of the world. I try really hard to rise above it.”

Modern family actress Sarah Hyland explains that pain is necessary in order to grow as a person and to find true happiness. In an interview, she reveals the lesson she learned when she broke up with longtime boyfriend, Matt Prokop.

“There are two quotes that I want to say. One is a Dylan Thomas poem ‘Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light,’ which is one of my favorite poems, it just strikes a chord in me. And also, Robert Frost’s ‘The only way out is through’. People have to go through things in order to become the person that they are today, and that’s that.”

Know your worth

Just because you broke up with someone doesn’t mean that your life is over. Remind yourself your worth and all the good things that are still yet to come. Jennifer Love Hewitt spoke to USA today about her breakup with Jamie Kennedy:

“It is what life handed me, and I’m OK with it. I know wholeheartedly that I’m a really good partner. I think I’m a really good girlfriend, and I think that I could be a really good wife. I know that I love being able to give my love out to someone. I know there is somebody great out there for me.”

Now, the actress is married to fellow actor Brian Hallisay and they have two children together.

Be nice to your ex

As difficult as it is to see your ex happy and shining, be the bigger person and have nothing but respect for your ex. Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone are the definition of breakup goals as the two have been nothing but respectful to each other post breakup.

Garfield told Vanity Fair in an interview:

“I’ll speak for myself: You know, I’m her biggest fan as an artist. I’m constantly inspired by her work. I’m constantly inspired by how she handles and holds herself. So, for me, I’ve-it’s been bliss to be able to watch her success and watch her bloom into the actress that she is. And it’s also been wonderful to have that kind of support for each other. It’s nothing but a beautiful thing.”

When it all gets too much, throw yourself into your work

Sometimes you just need a distraction from the breakup. Focusing on yourself and on your work will help you in the moving on process. Madonna spoke to Rolling Stone about how her busy work schedule helped her move on from her breakup with Guy Ritchie.

“What can you say? It was a challenging year. I think work saved me, and I’m very grateful that I had work to do. I may have thrown myself off a building. Life is an adjustment. It’s different. My sons aren’t with me right now, they’re with their father, and I’m not very comfortable with the idea of my children not living together. There are pros and cons, but I feel good now.”

Put Your Kids First

Drew Barrymore announced her divorce in August 2016, after four years of marriage to actor Will Kopelman. However, she remains adamant that the two will remain close so they can be the best parents to their two girls, Olive, 6, and Frankie, 4.

“Sadly, our family is separating legally, although we do not feel this takes away from us being a family. Our children are our universe, and we look forward to living the rest of our lives with them as the first priority.”

Don’t forget that you can still be friends

There’s a silver lining out of every situation and not all breakup’s have to be messy. Chris Pratt and Anna Faris broke hearts everywhere when they announced their split online but Faris remains clear that the two will always remain close.

“We’ll always have each other and be incredible friends. There is still so much laughter in our lives, and he is so proud of me, still. We watched each other grow, and he still cracks me up all the time. And I think I crack him up – unless he’s a really good actor and great at faking laughter. […] Chris and I are really great friends and I think that we always will be.”