Ahh, weddings. They can bring families together and they can just as quickly tear them apart. One Reddit user, posted on the site asking for advice regarding his Sister-In-Law’s upcoming wedding.

You see, his wife was asked to be a Bridesmaid at the destination wedding (the Bride is her sister). The problem is, HE wasn’t invited to the Milan wedding and the wedding happens to fall on his 30th Birthday!

He’s pretty upset as you can imagine and said, “My wife told me a couple days ago her Sister would be getting married on the weekend of my 30th birthday on the other side of the world. I will have to stay home, alone, with our toddler for a week taking care of him. Alone .I’m pretty deeply upset she is even considering being apart of this.”

He goes on to say that the Sister-In-Law has always had it out for him and tried to break up him and his wife ever since they first started dating. And the money it would cost for his wife to fly over for the wedding? That would be his 30th Birthday money.

What do you make of this dilemma?