You keep getting seenzoned by the wedding vendors and venues, now you’re spiraling: Are they ghosting me? Is my wedding cursed? Do vendors secretly hate me?
You’ve sent five enquiries. Only one vendor replied. Now you’re sitting there wondering: Is it me? The truth is, it might not be you as a person, but it could be how you’re enquiring. Wedding vendors aren’t ghosting you out of spite. They’re just trying to manage full inboxes, jam-packed calendars, and the realities of running a business. And sometimes, couples unintentionally make it harder to get a response.
Here’s what’s really going on and how to fix it:
1. You Didn’t Include the Basics
Vendors can’t quote what they don’t understand. An email that simply says, “Hi, can I get your rates?” gives them nothing to work with. Always include:
- Your wedding date
- Location
- Guest count
- The specific services you’re interested in
- And yes, your names
Think of it like a first impression. The more context you give, the easier it is for them to picture your wedding and respond quickly.
2. You’re Enquiring Too Late
Some vendors are booked 12–18 months out. So if your wedding is three months away, they may simply be full. That doesn’t mean you’re doomed, but it does mean you’ll need to adjust expectations or work with a service like Wedded Concierge, who can point you toward vendors with availability. Timing is everything.
3. Your Email Was Too Generic
Vendors receive dozens of near-identical enquiries a week. If your message reads: “I’m enquiring about pricing,” it’s probably going to the bottom of the pile. Instead, try: “We’re planning a romantic garden wedding on May 10 with 120 guests and love your natural light photography style. Are you available?”
See the difference? Specificity shows effort and effort gets replies.
4. Your Message Got Buried
Peak wedding season = inbox chaos. Even the most organized vendors miss messages when they’re juggling 14-hour wedding days and hundreds of emails. That’s why following up politely after 3–5 days isn’t push, it’s smart. Also, don’t forget to check your spam folder. That “ghost” may have already replied.
Avoid Ghosting and Don’t Get Ghosted
It’s not always them, it’s not always you, it’s the process. Clear, thoughtful, and timely enquiries will not only get you more responses but will also set the tone for a smoother relationship with your vendors.
Because here’s the truth: you don’t know what you don’t know. But we do. And that’s why services like Wedded Concierge exist to match you with vendors who fit your date, your budget, and your vision. No ghosting involved.
For more expert advice on how to plan your wedding stress-free, visit Wedded Wonderland. If you have no idea where to start with wedding planning, join our complimentary Wedded Concierge service or explore our Wedded Partners Global Listing to discover trusted suppliers. Let’s get Wedded!
