It’s the million dollar question; if you’ve sent out a ‘save the date’ card to someone, is it too late to cancel their wedding invitation?
It’s never too late to uninvite or disinvite a guest to your wedding, but there will always be a price – and sometimes it could mean they never speak to you again.
So, if you need to try and navigate this tricky social circumstance, here are some reasons and tips for dealing with it.
Downsizing your Guest List
So, you’ve sent out ‘save the dates’ only to realise you need to SERIOUSLY remove some guests from the guest lists, whether it be for budgetary reasons, or maybe there’s simply no room at the venue! If this is the case, tread carefully. If there is simply no other option but to remove some guests, pick people you are the least close to and be honest with them as to why you MUST remove their invitation. Consider inviting them over for an intimate dinner with you and your fiancé to celebrate instead.
If you have a guest that has hit on your fiancé (or you) in the lead-up to the wedding; we give you permission to guest’s invitation. Journalist Claudia Maittlen-Harris revealed that she knew a bride who found out one of her bridesmaids hit on her husband-to-be a few weeks before the wedding. When the bride-to-be confronted her, she confessed she had loved him for some time now. AWKS!
Fight or Flight?
Things can get pretty stressful pre-wedding and you’re bound to disagree with people occasionally, especially when it comes to them offering strong opinions on your choices. However, if the disagreement turns into an argument, it may be time to rethink their invitation. The last thing you want is to have a fight with one of your guests on your wedding day.
So, what do you do if you need to uninvite a guest?
Having the guts to rescind someone’s invitation is better either face-to-face or over the phone. If you can’t handle the guilt face-to-face, then a simple phone call explaining why they are not invited anymore is essential. Be honest and try to keep things civil. If they become angry (mostly likely situation) try to keep calm; yelling into the phone will just make things worse.
This is the best way to unitive someone to your wedding. Try to plan a few hours away from your busy schedule planning to sit down with them and maybe have a coffee. They will react a lot calmer if they are in a public place and it’s a sign of respect that you chose to talk to them face-to-face.
Email or Social Media Message
This is by far the worst option! However, if you do decide to inform them via a text, email or Facebook message, keep in mind that can cause added confusion and embarrassment. Be prepared to potentially lose a friend, or a colleague if you choose this way out!
Images from Nadia and Sam’s wedding. Photography by Duke Images