If you’re saying “I do” across cultures, these wedding traditions might surprise you
So you’re marrying someone from a different culture, congrats, international lovebirds! But before you dive headfirst into your Pinterest boards, it’s time for a little reality check: not every wedding tradition involves “something borrowed, something blue.”
Around the world, wedding traditions are as unique as a Lady Gaga red carpet look and way more unpredictable. If you’re not prepared, you could end up negotiating your bride back from a playful kidnapping in Romania or getting spit on (lovingly, of course) by your new father-in-law in Kenya.
Here’s your crash course in wedding traditions that might just blow your mind, spark your curiosity, or at the very least, prepare you for zero surprises on your big day.
1. Sweden: Kiss Me, I’m Single (Temporarily)
In Sweden, if the bride or groom leaves the room during the reception, guests of the opposite sex are encouraged to sneak a kiss from the one left behind. It’s flirty, chaotic, and kind of like a real-life episode of Love Island. Totally normal if you’re not the jealous type.
2. Germany: Couples Who Saw Together, Stay Together
At German weddings, newlyweds saw through a log together…yes, with an actual saw. This Baumstamm sägen tradition symbolizes teamwork and overcoming obstacles.
3. Italy: Breaking Glass, Not Hearts
Toward the end of the night, Italian couples smash a glass. The number of shards = the number of years you’ll be happily married. No pressure, but maybe pick the thinnest wine glass you can find.
4. Poland: Pay the Toll (in Vodka, Probably)
In Poland, wedding guests might set up “bramki” or pretend roadblocks during the celebration. The couple has to pay their way through with money, kisses, or yes, shots. It’s Mario Kart, but for love.
5. Saudi Arabia: Zaffa, but Make It a Party
The Zaffa is a celebratory wedding procession filled with drums, swords, and joyful ululations (aka Zaghrouta). Sometimes it includes Ardah, a traditional sword dance. Think of it as Beyonce’s Coachella meets royal Arabian flair.
6. Romania: Your Bride Has Been Kidnapped (Don’t Panic)
In one of Romania’s most iconic wedding traditions, the bride is “kidnapped” by guests, and the groom must earn her back. This can mean singing, dancing, or paying a playful ransom. It’s kind of like Ocean’s Eleven, but the heist is your new wife.
7. China: The Wedding Cry Olympics
In parts of China, the bride is expected to cry every day for a month before the wedding. On the actual day, she sings a “crying wedding song” to guests. It’s emotional endurance at its finest and suddenly every bridal meltdown on Say Yes to the Dress seems tame.
8. Kenya: Spit Happens
Among the Maasai in Kenya, the bride’s father blesses her by spitting on her head and chest. It may sound harsh, but it’s actually a heartfelt gesture. Cultural context is everything especially when bodily fluids are involved.
9. Congo: No Smiling Zone
Congo weddings require serious faces. No smiles, laughs, or even a happy tear. It’s believed joy should be saved for after the ceremony because marriage isn’t a joke. It’s a vibe, a very stoic vibe.
10. Philippines: Show Me the Money
In the Philippines, the money dance (sabitan ng pera) involves guests pinning bills onto the couple as they slow dance. It’s festive, flashy, and basically turns your reception into a mini cash shower. This is a tradition that Cardi B would definitely approve.
11. India: Hide the Groom’s Shoes
During Indian weddings, the bride’s side steals the groom’s shoes and demands a ransom. It’s called Joota Chupai and is basically a glorified prank war. Start practicing your negotiations now or bring extra sneakers.
Every culture celebrates love in its own extraordinary way. They tell stories that go far beyond the wedding day, passed down from generations who’ve loved and lost and loved again.
So if you’re marrying across cultures, embrace the beautiful chaos. Laugh through the log sawing, toast with strangers at toll gates, or even cry-sing your heart out if the moment calls for it. But always remember that at the heart of every tradition is something even more sacred: your love for your partner.
No matter what rituals you honor or skip, the most meaningful tradition is the one you create together.
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