Although we’re romantics here at Wedded Wonderland, we also know that relationships aren’t perfect. They aren’t always filled with sunshine and rainbows, and they require work and the removal of rose-tinted glasses.
Whether you’re in a shiny new relationship or you’ve been together for a while, it’s always a good idea to take a look at your relationship and find ways to improve things for the both of you. We’ve put together some tips on how to have healthier, better relationships this year (you can thank us later).
Value Face to Face Time Over Technology
We’re slowly becoming a world of zombies with our eyes stuck to our screens and our fingers rapidly tapping away at the buttons. If you know this a problem for both you and your partner, make the decision to start putting your phones down and scheduling “No Technology” times, where you both interact with one another without touching your phones or laptops (make this fun by adding rules and punishments).
Be Nice To Each Other
Manners gets you a long way. If you’ve previously not given a second though to little niceties, as simple as saying please and thank you, or praising them for little accomplishments throughout the week, then make an active decision to start doing so. You’ll feel a change in dynamic and confidence from both of you, and you’ll be surprised by how much your mood lights with each small positive comment.
It’s not uncommon to hear that people in long-term relationships begin to lose intimacy after a while. Rather than fall into a sexless trap, address the issue and the things that have led to it. If you both have busy schedules, try to settle on times when you can be intimate – it may sound like a joke, but love appointments work! If issues are a little more skin deep than that, be open to seeing a sex therapist to discuss the deeper issues that may arise.
Split The Workload
It’s 2018 so social stereotypes are currently flying out the window. Women and men are no longer defined by the roles that were prevalent 50 years ago, so if you’re still going by the whole “women stay at home and men work” notion, it’s time to drop it. When it comes to housework and other general affairs, split the workload between the both of you. No one should be lumped with doing the hard work unless they want to, so make an effort to change things.
Be Honest About What You Want
Don’t let an anthill turn into a mountain. If there’s something on your mind, there’s no better New Year’s Resolution than being honest about things. If there’s something that your significant other says or does that you don’t like, sit down and have a rational discussion about it. Honesty is always the best policy, but make sure to approach the situation calmly in order to avoid unnecessary fights.
Break Old Habits
Wondering why your partner is getting annoyed with the little things you’ve never paid much mind to before? Well, it’s because you don’t pay enough attention to it. If you’ve got little habits that would irk a regular person, set about making a change. Put down the toilet seat, don’t leave your dirty clothes on the bathroom floor, pack away the dishes when you see them sitting there for too long – just be mindful.