You are awesome. Never forget that. Rather than make a list of New Years’ resolutions that try to turn you into someone else, why not stop doing these ten things that are hurting you from being happy.
1. Stop dieting
If 2016 has taught us anything, other than love is dead #RIPBrangelina, it’s that we need to celebrate who we are and stop trying to conform to archaic beauty standards. All hail QWEEN Ashley Graham! ??? Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and we need to start celebrating that. Maintaining a healthy, balanced, active lifestyle is important for our health, but please do away with the yo-yo dieting this 2017.
2. Stop trying to please everyone
I know it’s very easy to say, and much harder to act on. Wanting to please people, to be approved of and loved comes as naturally to us as knowing how to breathe. It’s when you try to please everyone that it becomes a problem. One, because it’s impossible, and two, because it’s hurting you. Why? With your need to seek approval at any cost you fail to speak up and stand up for what’s right, fail to say what’s on your mind and fail to allow yourself to be the real you. Instead you become the person who is always willing to change their plans at a moment’s notice. The person who will always take on more work and stay late. The person who never says no, even when it hurts you and those around you. Pursue what makes you happy first and your relationships will be all the better for it.
3. Stop stressing about finding ‘the one’
The older you get, the easier it is to get stressed out about not being in a serous relationship. You may be perfectly happy with every other aspect of your life – your job, your friends, your family, and your Instagram addiction, but at the end of the day, you want someone special to share that with. Finding love is never easy, but worrying about it has never in the history of ever helped. If you’re stressing out about finding ‘The One’ and wondering if it will ever happen for you, it’s time to stop. We at Wedded Wonderland firmly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and when the timing is right it happens. We have a fairy in the office that was desperately single for 7 years, and had only ever had one boyfriend, before moving states and finding the one. She always thought she was never going to, but it happened. And it will happen to you. In the meantime, focus on what you love and what makes you happy, and that positive energy will help attracting the right person for you.
4. Stop overthinking
When you overthink, your judgements get confused and your stress gets elevated. You spend too much time dwelling on the negative and it can become difficult to act. Rather than thinking about every possibility and letting your imagination get away from you, try and focus on the positive. Or better yet distract yourself with a good book or a new TV show to stop the spiral in the first place.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others
The grass is not actually greener on the other side. It is very easy to only see the good in someone’s life when looking at it from afar, but I guarantee you that everyone has their cross to bear. So rather than focusing on what others have compared to you, cherish what you do have.
“Remember how far you’ve come, not just how long you’ve got to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither where you used to be.” Rick Warren.
If there’s anything that you really want, write out the steps it will take to get there and look work towards your goal one at a time.
6. Stop trying to make a bad relationship work
Sometimes no matter how much you love someone, it just isn’t right. It doesn’t matter how much time or effort you’ve invested into a relationship, if it isn’t making you happy, or it is constantly fraught with drama, then it is not a relationship worth having. You are amazing and deserve to have someone that thinks that, and treats you appropriately. And this goes for friendships too. Surround yourself with people who respect and appreciate you and do the same to those you love.
7. Stop resisting change
As hard as change sometimes is, it is good and necessary to for you to move forward in life. Be open to change and always try and better yourself and your environment. One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they are losing rather than what is to be gained. Being comfortable is nice, but if you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
8. Stop living in the past
There is a reason the rear window is so small and the windshield is so big. Focus on what’s ahead, and not what is in the past that you can’t control or change. Remember, the future is made up of today’s.
9. Stop feeling guilty for treating yo’self
You are allowed to spoil yourself every once in a while. If that is a piece of cake or a new dress, the do NOT feel guilty for rewarding yourself for your hard work. Obviously, there is a limit – don’t buy a new pair of Louboutin’s every day when you don’t have the means. But also, don’t be afraid to spoil yourself when you’ve earned it. You should never be ashamed of your achievements and doing something special for you and you alone.
10. Stop going to bed with your makeup on
This one is not as serious as all the rest, but it’s a goody, and the easiest to achieve from the list. Going to bed with your makeup on is not only bad for your skin, but bad for your sheets. It’ll take 1 minute. We promise it’s easy and you won’t have to wake up to gunky eyes…ew